Situational
Psychology / Unilateral Rules That Work
I have inserted many quotations
of conflicting viewpoints and I will try
to explain why I believe they came
to the wrong conclusions.
COUNSELING SITPSY
Why aren't superior children
allowed to be
completely perfect?
Once children are superior
we expect them
to act that way forever.
If a child is superior
we usually try
to find fault or talk about
any of his or her performances
that are less than superior.
We tend to diminish
the accomplishments
of superior students
by finding possibilities
for them to become losers.
A father said,
"My daughter
is a terrific student."
The same father
in the next sentence complained
that last year
his superior daughter seemed
to be dreaming in class.
Now in her senior year
with another teacher in math,
she is in the top 90 percent
of the class.
Why did he have
to make the negative remark
about last year?
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POWERFUL COUNSELING
WITH SILENCE
Whoever controls the silence
has the power.
Examples:
Silent political demonstrations
have toppled governments.
Practical psychological value:
Exhibiting self-control
over your mouth is very powerful.
Your silence is a better gift
than your words.
Your stillness
becomes very expressive.
If you listen to students
they will learn
from their own words.
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PRACTICING SILENCE SKILLS
If you don't open your mouth
you won't have
to take your foot out of it.
POWERFUL CONTROL
WITH SILENCE
The child is using words
to try to control
the environment.
They don't have a wide range
of alternatives.
Be silent.
Just stand there
and let them rant and rave.
Wait, calmly consider,
before talking.
Stand still or at an angle.
Limit antagonizing eye contact.
Look down or
to the side.
Stop the put down chatter.
The more you speak
the more chance
for error, that may
have very negative consequences.
Examples:
Exposing your prejudice,
hurt feelings,
controversy building viewpoints,
and downright mistakes.
Establish distance.
Trust your silence.
Pauses between words
are real power.
Silence serves, connects.
Perhaps silence
is a better expression
than what you can think
to say.
Is silence more
universally understood?
Try silence for a day.
Give silence a chance.
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OPEN MOUTH,
REMOVE FOOT
Counseling problems:
Painful remarks thinly disguised
as humor may become
the child's self-image.
DON'T USE LIMITING LABELS.
Don't discuss
a slow learning rate
with parents or students.
Slow learning rates
are more likely
to be a temporary condition.
At Accelerated Schools,
our students with limitations
make better progress
than average students
in a public school.
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COUNSELING PROCEDURES
Objective:
Low cost counseling.
Low cost treatment
of severe problems.
Just paying attention
to difficult cases
brings improvement.
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A VIEWPOINT I HOPE
YOU CAN SHARE.
No defect counseling
for ADHD.
ADHD Medication is prescribed:
To be expedient.
To fill in for cancelled
counseling appointments.
To fill in for inconsistencies
in counseling.
To fill in for inconsistencies
in the home.
To fill in for reward management.
Why use a medical way
when academic success therapy
is so cheap.
Successful therapy means
that you realize success sooner,
cheaper, more permanently.
Accelerated Schools
reduces the pressure
to compete while increasing
the students ability
to compete.
Individual rewards are necessary
until a student is skilled enough
to join a superior peer group.
Qualifying to become
a part of any team
is a major goal
for many students.
Losers want to win.
Losers want to work.
Educational success therapy
that improves employment
ability rather than
incarceration in prisons.
Patients need
to prove their worth
to the community.
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MOVING PROBLEMS
Moving from one school and
part of town to another
can severely limit
a child's future.
Too often it is a disaster
to children that lose their friends.
Children want to be part
of a human group.
Acceptance by a group
some group
any group
at any price.
Q. "We are going to move anyway?.
How can I make the best of it.
For my child."
Join a nearby church.
Join a youth group
or your child will
join the mall group.
Public transportation
to widely spaced activities
is difficult to find.
Transportation by other
teenagers may endanger
your child.
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